Long time no blogging

I haven't blogged in a LONG time. No real reason just life. My health is balancing out again. My husband has been working many long hours. I have been taking care of the kids and painting the house. I have been struggling with my relationship with my mom. She has always been her needs before anyone else's. I don't know how to cope with that. I wish I could. She put her needs in front of mine when I was child and she failed to protect me. I have trouble balancing that with I think she did the best she could with the tools she had. In my heart of hearts I believe she did the best but the problem I have is that to her that is good enough even now she doesn't change or self examine. She maintains the status quo and that isn't ok. It is ok that you make mistakes but you learn and move on. She doesn't have that part in her. Am I wrong for longing for her to change?